11:45 AM – I’m having a hard time getting Mom to eat anything, still. Just a bit ago, I told her to take her meds and eat a bowl of cereal. She took her meds and poured a cup of chocolate milk. Nope, not good enough! I had to tell her again to eat a bowl of cereal (she’s eating a bowl of it now.)
I’ve tried getting her to drink an Ensure and she ends up pouring a cup of chocolate milk and thinks it’s the same thing because the Ensure is chocolate flavored. I’ve been leaving a note on the counter and sometimes that works. Other times it gets ignored. Sometimes it helps setting her soup stuff on the counter. That usually works, unless there’s left-overs that she put in the fridge, I don’t set that out because I don’t know when she will see it. I’m not sure what else to do with this.
In other news, we have an appointment Thursday with the lawyer to get the Deed taken care of and also to set up a POA so that I can get medical records. I’ve also let the lawyer know that my goal is to keep Mom home as long as I can, but that I would like to discuss worst case scenario of having to put her in a nursing home as early as this Spring when it warms up. If she starts wandering and getting lost, there won’t be any choice. We’ll need to know when to apply for Medicaid and when to start looking into nursing homes. Miller’s Merry Manor here in Syracuse and in Warsaw both take Medicaid and Memory patients according to their website and they both have better reviews than a lot of other nursing homes in the area. Hopefully the lawyer can help with all of this!
11:45 PM – We’re back to hallucinations again! Oh joy! I heard her earlier this evening talking about Jerry and bar tending again and hoped there wasn’t going to be a repeat of 2 weeks ago (to the day). I just had Mom come downstairs on high and went to the bathroom, then came out here and asked me if I knew anything about pythons. I tried to tell her that it’s too cold of a climate for pythons here and she replied with, “I don’t know, it’s a big one.” Out of frustration, I just told her to go to bed… get some sleep. While writing this, Mom was out by the back door and had the outside light on and was watching out the back door. I told her again to go to bed, that there were no pythons out there. She replied that, “Someone was going to come and look.” I told her that, “no, there wasn’t anyone coming. Go to bed! We’re not doing this again this week!” She went upstairs, but it remains to be seen if she will actually go to bed.
Glad you are going to the lawyer. It might be nice to have your brothers go with you. (At least, my bro and sis and I thought 3 sets of ears were better than 1)
Hang in there and don’t jeopardize your own health or your job.
I don’t think the others want anything to do with Mom. At least it doesn’t seem that way. That’s fine, as long as they understand that Medicaid takes everything and as long as they don’t try to fight me on the house. It seems I’m only going to get to keep it because I’ve been caring for her for so long. I’m also still going to have a mortgage on it to pay, so it’s not free. There won’t be any money to split up, unless they want to help with cremation costs when that time comes.
Well, I still feel sad you have to carry this burden alone. 🙁